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Communication in Relationships - How Your Values Help
Our values affect the foundations of our relationships and in particular, of our healthy, consciously-led relationships. Values can be a support in new relationships or those going through challenging times, when sometimes it may feel difficult to reconcile differences and navigate emotional difficulties that affect our ability to communicate.
Traumatic experiences in previous relationships can hugely affect new relationships, because we carry those patterns, expectations and fears from our previous ones.
Where are the Boundaries in Relationships?
Healthy boundaries allow individuals to express their needs, desires, and limits, ensuring that both parties feel valued and respected. They prevent the overstepping of personal space and protect us against emotional, physical, or psychological harm.
Communication - Speak Up
They are the limits we set to define who we are (or want to be), what is acceptable to us, and what is unacceptable to us. Communication is the tool we use to express these.
Values -What’s Actually Important to You?
When boundaries are values-aligned, it means that the limits we set in our interactions and behaviors directly reflect our core beliefs and principles.
Values-aligned boundaries are not arbitrary; they are deeply connected to what we hold dear, such as respect, honesty, kindness, or self-care.
Bend It, Shape It - How Flexibility Helps
The benefits of boundaries being flexible and adaptable are significant in helping us to foster resilience and build healthier relationships.
Clarity - Boundaries Blueprint
Clarity and defined boundaries are crucial because they allow us to establish clear expectations and limits, preventing misunderstandings and conflicts.
When boundaries are well-defined, they offer a blueprint for how we wish to be treated and how we interact with others. This clarity empowers us to protect own emotional well-being, honour our personal values, and maintain healthy relationships.
Boundaries for Mental Wealth
It’s easy to downplay the importance of boundaries in our day to day life, especially if we are under stress, or they are not something we are aware of or are used to having. Many of our innate boundaries (choice, safety, security, autonomy) are crossed as children so we learn than we don’t have this level of control, or rather, we never learn to develop or identify what we want our personal boundaries to be.
